A Theology of singleness

A Theology of Singleness

What does the Bible have to say about the season of singleness? Whether you are single or not, I hope you will take time to make sure your point of view on this stage of life is Biblical, and not influenced by the culture around you. And remember, those of us who are married may…

A Heart for Home

A Heart for Home, Part 3

In part 1 we talked about how God has given us influence over the most important establishment in all of society, the home. And in part 2 we discussed the value of hospitality and how to be strategic in hosting others. Now, let’s look at what the Bible has to say about commitments outside the…

A Heart for Home

A Heart for Home: Part 1

In the last post, I discussed our role as influencers. Now I want to consider where the Bible calls us to have primary influence: the home. Now, if you just rolled your eyes or felt a twinge of fear or anger at the thought of women being called to the home, listen up. Do not let your culture…

Women Are Influencers

Women, We Are Influencers

In the beginning, God created woman as a helper, a supporter and an aide (Gen 2:18,22). Though our culture would scoff at such a role in society, there is truly great honor in it. The only other person given the title of helper in the Old Testament is God. The Hebrew word for help/helper is…

a proper approach to biblical womanhood

Faith, Humility, & The Glory of God: Foundations of Womanhood

In the last post, Biblical Womanhood, I introduced what will be a several part series on what the Bible has to say about womanhood. I briefly described the influence of feminism as well. And on that note, it is the influence of feminism that makes this topic such a touchy one. There are a lot of books,…

Biblical Womanhood

Biblical Womanhood

Men and women are different. A seemingly obvious statement, yet one that is up for debate nowadays. Our world is fighting to convince us that, besides their reproductive systems, there are no significant differences between a man and a woman. The logic goes like this: 1. Men and women should be equal. 2. Equality means the…

Valentines day

Valentine’s Day is Not About You

How did Valentine’s day become “I-need-someone-to-make-much-of-me day”? The popular idea of love conjures up images of being served and doted on by others. So if you don’t have someone buying you flowers, sending you notes, and telling you you’re awesome on Valentine’s day, it then becomes an excuse to be angry and depressed. Christian, your view of…

marriage gone wrong

Marriage Gone Wrong: when codependency highjacks a beautiful union

After the series I recently wrote dealing with codependency in friendship, a few people presented a very natural follow up question: If codependency isn’t ok in friendships, then should it be ok in marriage? NO. Remember, I’m defining codependency as tying your emotional sense of well-being to another person. To say it another way, it is giving more weight and…

Prepare Him Room

Prepare Him Room

(This post inspired by the song “Prepare Him Room” by Paul Baloche. Check it out here.) Joy to the world! The Lord is come; Let earth receive her king; Let every heart prepare him room, And heaven and nature sing, And heaven and nature sing, And heaven, and heaven, and nature sing. The birth of…

friendship gone wrong

Friendships Gone Wrong, Part 6

ROMANTICIZING FRIENDSHIP “When we are completely immersed in a society of people who consider a particular idolatrous attachment normal, it becomes almost impossible to discern it for what it is.” –Tim Keller The culture around us is like a current, gently pushing us along according to its philosophies.  Unless we are regularly clinging to the…

friendship gone wrong

Friendship Gone Wrong, Part 5

If you’re just jumping into this conversation, I hope you will go back and read the first 4 parts of this series for some context. I’ve been talking about the problem of codependent friendships which are rooted in idolatry and casting a vision for the purpose of Biblical friendship. STEPS TOWARD FREEDOM If it is evident…

friendship gone wrong

Friendship Gone Wrong, Part 4

Now that we’ve seen what an unhealthy friendship looks like, let’s talk about healthy friendships. To do that, we must start with the purpose of friendship, biblically. FRIENDSHIP FOR JESUS “O, who but the Christian feels such pleasures as are connected with friendship for our dear Lord Jesus Christ?” Samuel Pearce Friendship FOR Jesus. What a sweet…

friendship gone wrong

Friendship Gone Wrong, Part 3

In the last post, we looked into what the Bible has to say about idolatry. Idolatry is the root of every codependent relationship; it is what’s happening under the surface. Let’s now look at what goes on above the surface. EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY This sin of idolizing a friend is often called “emotional dependency” or “codependency” in the counseling…

friendship gone wrong

Friendship Gone Wrong, Part 2

THE FIRST LIE Since the serpent first opened his mouth in the garden, he’s been trying to convince us that God is not enough for us: “You’re missing out. God’s holding out on you.” (Gen 3:1-6) And since then, the temptation to look to God’s creation instead of God Himself for satisfaction is a common, daily struggle,…

friendship gone wrong

Friendship Gone Wrong, Part 1

Sarah and Kelsey are best friends. A year ago, Kelsey walked into Sarah’s dorm room to borrow a textbook from her roommate and noticed Sarah watching her favorite movie. Forty minutes later, after discussing plots lines and rehearsing favorite scenes from the movie, they became fast friends. Slowly, over time, they did everything together—Bible study,…

redeem halloween

Redeem Halloween: Being Missional on Fright Night

And the Pharisees and the scribes grumbled, saying, “This man receives sinners and eats with them.” Luke 15:2 Tonight, we will turn our porch lights on, set out a sign, and be handing out king sized candy bars to hundreds of kids, moms, dads, and teens.  Some will grumble that we receive sinners.  But they said this of Jesus…

humility and faith

Humility and Faith

Humility is emptiness of self; having no concern for your rights and your importance.  A humble person doesn’t feel entitled to anything but wrath from God.  In the last post I talked about the link between humility and seeing God clearly.  We looked at Isaiah, Peter, and John the Baptist, three men who had a big view of…

humility

Humility: A Clear View of God

Nothing draws the heart of God to His people more than humility. Thus says the high and exalted One who lives forever, whose name is Holy, “I dwell on a high and holy place, and also with the contrite and the lowly of spirit.” Isaiah 57:15 “My hand made all these things, thus all these…