In the last post, I discussed our role as influencers. Now I want to consider where the Bible calls us to have primary influence: the home.
Now, if you just rolled your eyes or felt a twinge of fear or anger at the thought of women being called to the home, listen up. Do not let your culture be the primary informer of your worldview. In our age of career-rules-all, urging women to give their best efforts toward the success of the home seems insulting. “Isn’t that like asking women to play second string? To be the understudy? A benchwarmer? To let men do all the really important things, while we clean up their messes and do their laundry and raise their kids?”
Maybe that’s how you think of managing a home… something you do when you’ve got nothing better to do. Even those who agree that women should be the primary keepers of the home often have an attitude expressing the opposite. We’d much rather be doing vocational ministry, writing a blog, or [fill-in-the-blank] than the menial, every day humdrum of home life.
But do not fall for the lie that the home is unimportant. The home is the fundamental establishment of any society. Like the rudder of a ship, the condition of the homes will steer the direction of the nation. The home is where future world leaders are molded, where brilliant minds are nurtured, where world views are established. Any investment made in the home has ripple effects that last for generations. So when we talk of a woman overseeing the home, this is not to lessen her importance, but to elevate it. God has given us influence over the most important establishment in all of society.
WHERE IS IT IN THE BIBLE?
Let’s look at a few key passages of scripture on this topic. And instead of doing the work for you to unpack these passages, I’m asking you to take just a minute to pull out your Bible (or your Bible app) and read the passage yourself and answer the questions.
Take some time to read Titus 2:3-5 and answer the following question:
- Of the 6 things older women are to teach younger women, how many are related to family/home life?
- What does this communicate to us about our priorities?
Read Proverbs 31:10-31 and answer the following questions:
- Who are the main beneficiaries of this woman’s efforts? (v. 11, 12, 15, 21, 23, 27)
- Does this woman do things outside of her home? (v. 16, 20, 24)
- Read verses 15, 21, 27 again. What do you notice about her intentionality toward those in her home? And what does this imply about her work outside her house?
Last but not least, let’s go back to God’s initial design of man and woman for some insight. Read Genesis 2:7-22.
- Did God create Adam before or after He made the Garden of Eden?
- Where was Adam created? Inside or outside the Garden?
- Where was Eve created? Inside or outside the Garden?
- What does this imply about men and women?
After studying the passages above, it is evident that God has created women to be uniquely influential within the context of the home. This does not mean she cannot earn an income for her family or devote her time to other ventures, as the Proverbs 31 passage portrays. But regardless of her other commitments, her primary responsibility and area of influence should be oriented toward the home, not away from it.
To drive this point home (no pun intended), consider one last verse from the book of Proverbs:
The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down. Proverbs 14:1
A wise woman is investing in her home. She is putting effort into building it up, strengthening it, and supporting it. Wisdom begins with the fear of the Lord, so a woman who fears the Lord will build up her house. This is exactly what we see the wife in Proverbs 31 doing.