Clearing the Stage: People

So if you weren’t aware, my awesome husband Jimmy is releasing a new record called “Clear The Stage” in 5 days! This record is unbelievable musically and lyrically and is all I have been listening to lately. The album title comes from a song on the record also called Clear the Stage that was written by a friend of ours, Ross King (Check out his music here. And please buy his album “And All the Decorations Too.” It is phenomenal lyrically.). This song has had a powerful effect on both of our lives and is one we regularly listen to as a way to check our hearts for idols. To give you an idea of the message of the song and this record, let me share a portion of the lyrics:

Anything I put before my God is an idol.
Anything I want with all my heart is an idol.
Anything I can’t stop thinking of is an idol.
Anything that I give all my love is an idol.
We must not worship something that’s not even worth it.
Clear the stage and make some space for the one who deserves it.

In anticipation of this record, Jimmy and I will be doing some “stage-clearing” in our own lives and will be blogging about it for the next five days until the record releases. We invite you to join us in this with hopes that we can give God the rightful place in our lives: center stage.


With that being said, it was a no brainer to decide what idol in my life needs to be dealt with first. People. I have a problem in that I am way too obsessed with what other people think of me. When I read through the lyrics posted above, “anything I can’t stop thinking of is an idol,” I am faced with the reality of how I idolize the approval of others. While I might say I am a generally confident person, I spend way to much of my thought life imagining what others might be thinking about me. I contemplate what my neighbor might think if I drive away without saying hello. Or what that woman at church might think if I have to ask for her name again for the 3rd time. Or what my friend will think if I forget to call her on her birthday. Way too often, these thoughts consume me.


The problem with being so preoccupied with my image to others is that it leaves little of my attention to be focused on God! In addition to that, these thoughts are simply a surfacing of my ever-recurring problem with the sin of pride. I may be thinking about others and what they think of me… but in the end, I am simply thinking of me! “What do they think of ME?” “How do I look?” “I want to make sure I don’t look bad.” I am way, way, way to concerned with myself.


So maybe a better title for this post is this: “Clearing the Stage of ME.” Self-worship will probably always be the biggest threat to my true worship of God. I do seem to get in the way a lot. I’ve also noticed when God truly has center stage in my life and in my heart, I forget about myself all together in light of the greatness of who He is. The lyrics from Shane & Shane’s song “Vision of You” come to mind: “Let the vision of You be the death of me.”


Oh Lord, may that be true every day of my life. That I would daily choose to fix my eyes upon You and who You are in all Your glory so that all other idols melt away, including myself. By Your grace would You free me from the bondage of self-worship by being too concerned with what others think of me? Through the resurrection power of Your Son Jesus, bring freedom to me from this idolatry that You alone may be my sole focus and recipient of my worship. In the power and name of Jesus, Amen.




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7 thoughts on “Clearing the Stage: People

  1. Wow! Very good word. I just found your blog and I am incredibly blessed. Thank you for being so honest and speaking the truth. Although my husband isn’t a recording artist, he is a police officer, and with that, I am home alone a lot. He works a midnight shift which also means I sleep alone 5 nights a week. I can’t tell you how this spoke to me. I am so grateful for his career, but I need to embrace this life God has given us, instead of complaining about everything from being a “single parent” to never getting to hang out with friends on the weekends after 8 pm. We aren’t “normal”, we don’t live a “normal” life, and we don’t have a “normal” schedule, but God has chosen us for this, and it is time to make the most of it!

  2. Mrs. Kelly,
    I really love your blogs because you are so quick to show everyone what you struggle with, and I very much relate to a lot of what you blog about. This one particularly I relate with a lot. It’s really hard to not think about yourself and how others feel and think of you when youre a teenager, and I struggle with that massively. Im always thinking of how others think I look when I walk into class, or what they think when I tell them I’m a follower of Christ, or what everyone will think if I post that status or whatever. But this blog brought lots of light onto the subject for me and I really appreciate that you post all these blogs. You are a big help to me through your blogs, and I pray that the God you and me serve will bless you always! Thank you for your insight and transperency through your blogs, Mrs. Kelly! :)
    -shelby

  3. For a minute I had to check and make sure that I hadn’t written the second part of that post myself… the part about the idol of thinking about what other people think of me. (Especially since we happen to use the same wordpress design theme on our blogs lol) :) For weeks now I’ve been thinking about this in my own life.

    Anyway, I guess I’m curious what “clearing the stage” in this area of life looks like for you? How do you stop being consumed by these thoughts?

  4. Kelly,

    I wish you would consider writing a bible study for women. I used to read things that you would write Claire, back when David, and Claire, were just freshmen in high school. I had Claire, in my group of girls that I worked with at Faithbridge. When you and Jimmy, were first married you came to one of our girls night shut ins. I enjoy your writing as much as Jimmy’s songs. Please keep writing~it inspires me to be a better wife.

  5. Kelly,
    I found your page last night through Jimmy’s facebook posts, and I am so glad I did! I have been reading your blogs, and wow there are so many that have truely inspired me. I want to Thank you for shedding light to areas of my life that I have not even realized were an issue. I have never thought of myself as a prideful person, but as I read about your thoughts about what others think of you consuming your mind I too am dealing with the same. I also put my to do lists in front of spending time with God which I am going to be now in constant prayer to the Lord to help me stay focussed on Him and put Him as my first!! Thank you for being so real in your writings. I feel like I know you!! I also Love Jimmy’s music. The Hurricane song is my 4 year old sons Favorite song! He listens to it over and over every day!! Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Needham for being a blessing to mine and my family’s lives. I am so excited about Clearing the Stage!!

  6. I can relate with you more than you know, as this is a constant struggle in my life as well. Thank you for being so candid. “For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servantt of Christ.” Galatians 1:10

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